Find the Switch — 3

Jean Strobel introduced me to the the “dry drunk syndrome” years ago and it has guideded my work ever since. A well-known pamphlet on the subject states, “Being dry is not the same as contented sobriety.”1 Bev Lemaniak, another important mentor, said it best: There’s more to recovery than sobriety.”

Dick Solberg, the pamphlet’s author, notes:

Dry drunk refers to attitudes and actions that poison our well-being. We keep acting "drunk," even when we're "dry." What's more, these attitudes and actions often show up after we've been sober for a while. They're a sure sign that we're experiencing discomfort in our lives.2

I’d argue that the attitudes and actions are generally present before struggles with alcohol and other drugs develop. They represent the driver or “switch” (and here) for addiction.

Solberg explored some “obvious traits” of those with substance use disorders including grandiosity, judgmentalism, intolerance and impulsivity.3 Some in recovery refer to these are “character defects.”4 From a clinical standpoint, we think in terms of attachment patterns, personality structure, irrational beliefs,5 and so forth. Treatment involves targeting these underlying issues. ✸


  1. R.J. Solberg. The Dry Drunk Syndrome, Revised Edition. Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1993, p. i
  2. Ibid., pp. 1–2; emphasis in the original
  3. Ibid., pp. 3–8
  4. Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th ed. New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 2001, pp. 58–71, 72–88 (Step 6)
  5. Irrational beliefs, or iBs, are a core feature of rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. Those with substance use disorders often address awfulizing, frustration intolerance and self-downing by “chemical coping”

Endnote. According to Hazelden, Solberg’s pamphlet was initially published in 1970. It was revised in 1983 and 1993. There have been many different covers over the years and pamphlets are often undated. The copy that Jean Strobel gave to me appears to be a later printing of the first edition (publishing mark: dry drunk is hyphenated).

Solberg also authored The Dry Drunk Revisited, which was published in 1980 and is now out of print.

Many thanks to Chuck B. for helping me understand the publication history.


Series Installments
Find the Switch
Find the Switch — 2
Find the Switch — 3
Find the Switch — 4

Remembering Wes Thomsen

News of Wes Thomsen’s sudden passing reached me Saturday afternoon at a wedding. I found myself struggling with the juxtaposition of beginnings and endings, joy and sadness — and, ultimately, future versus finality.

I’m going to remember Wes in innumerable ways: his ready smile; his unhurried manner; his palpable sense of contentment; his vision and creativity; his deft leadership skills; his deep desire to help those touched by addiction; his amazing portfolio of work at Hazelden Publishing (example here); and so forth.

Wes Thomsen (left) on set at Westminster Presbyterian Church in Minneapolis, Minn., on August 3rd, 2021.

But I will mainly remember Wes as a friend surrounded by lights and cameras who blessed me with amazing conversations. ✸


Kate Gillette created a GoFundMe campaign to benefit Andrea and Margot. Please give generously.


P.S. A lovely memorial service occurred on October 1st. I appreciated the photographs of Wes, hearing the various recollections and tributes, and the remarkable closing song by Pegtop. A recording of the livestream captures most of this. I’m currently trying to find a stream of “I Believe in You,” a track on Just Us.

Addictive Substances WYNTK

Way back in August, we filmed the tenth and final installment of Hazelden Publishing’s What You Need to Know (WYNTK) Series. Our set was at the beautiful Westminster Presbyterian Church in Downtown Minneapolis.

That installment, Addictive Substances, is now out — or, as my kids would say, it “dropped.” Wes Thomsen, the senior producer, generously gave me permission to post a segment here.

I appear at 1:50
Copyright © Hazelden Publishing. Used with permission

Many thanks to Wes ThomsenSylvia JaurezBrad HadsallChris Dougherty and Jennilee Park for conceiving and producing the series. I’m looking forward to ongoing adventures! ✸

WYNTK Finale

We filmed the tenth and final installment of Hazelden Publishing’s What You Need to Know (WYNTK) Series today. Our set was at the beautiful Westminster Presbyterian Church in Downtown Minneapolis.

Many thanks to Wes Thomsen, Sylvia Jaurez, Brad Hadsall, Chris Dougherty and Jennilee Park for conceiving and producing the series. I’m looking forward to our next adventure! ✸


Postscript [08/03/2021]. “Where are you in the program overviews?” Please see Alcohol starting at 1:17 and Nicotine & Vaping starting at 2:20. And, there is much more in the full products.

Nicotine & Vaping WYNTK

I’m a longtime friend of the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation and have frequently collaborated with Hazelden Publishing on various educational offerings. What You Need to Know (WYNTK) is the latest series

We filmed the Nicotine & Vaping program in late February, which seems like years ago because of Covid-19. It’s now available for preview and purchase

Hazelden Publishing

Many thanks to Wes Thomsen and his crew at Hazelden Publishing for involving me in this project. My previous appearances can be found here and here. ✸

Lights, Camera

Treatment Basics, an excellent educational DVD, is now available from Hazelden Publishing. I was fortunate to be included in the project.

Treatment Basics, an excellent educational DVD, is now available from Hazelden Publishing. It complements Addiction Basics, which appeared in 2017.

I was fortunate to be included in both projects. Many thanks to Wes Thomsen and his team for the ongoing collaboration. What’s in the hopper for 2019? §

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